Anyone wondering if love still exists should have gone with me to Scrib Vineyards Saturday night. You would have seen my second cousin declaring life-time commitment to her friend, laughing companion and main squeeze. With the first married kiss, your doubts would have melted into the one-hundred degree temperature of the day.
As part of the group of cynics who hold the origins of marriage to extracting money from puppy loving, romantics, even I was convinced. They chipped away at my view of decades of gluing yourself to one person as barbaric, questionable behavior. I mean, what if the other person decides to become a Rock Star and leaves you for a Movie Star? Although, the alimony you'd get could compensate for the loss.
What stems out of this acknowledgement that an entire, dragging life could be spent loving the same person every single damned day? If one couple could do such a dramatic, all-endurance iron-couple feat such as wedded happiness, than joy is possible. Even a life time of it.
Of all the difficulties we face, human relations are among the biggest daily hurdle. At least the ones beyond a dropper full of easy talk regarding weather, movies and celebrity gossip. And if you want to spend decades with the same person, be ready to share icky stuff like what you are hiding from the outside world, how you look in the morning, pre-shower, and the ultra embarrassing health stuff you don't dare tell Mom about. It's all cranked into the marriage vows.
There are two different kinds of marriages: Wanting someone to grow old with, and wanting someone to grow with. That single word of old, is the litmus test for considering a partner in life time pledges. Neither is better than the other. But if you don't both want the same type, consider this the elephant in the room of marital bliss.
Being on the fence of marriage, I will refrain from further advice.
But even if I am not jumping onto the contract papering of love for a lifetime, I do believe that peace with a partner is something to be sought after.
Appreciate a bit of young love? Here's an adventure with paranormal teens, rebelling from an overly polite, restricted society:
Dolphin Divine,
All love is good
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