Forced Family, Chosen Chums

How do we live with family? Different personalities within the framework of a shared biology. Each member with a personality that often conflicts with every other member. People who can dump their daily stress-crap onto your dinner plate, and still be part of your blood.

Why are we stuck with this lunacy?

Because we choose our birth, before we are born. Contract with our parents before conception. Are aware of who will be our siblings. We enter each life, conscious of what we are getting our selves into.

Wait. Hold on there, Schmuck. Shouldn't there be personality tests given to make our childhood flesh out smoothly, with those we will be interacting with for decades?

Why not seek out people who agree on where to keep the butter container, who should do the dishes, which movie to watch, whether or not to get a puppy.

Once we get going in each life, we decide who we are going to hang out with (aka friends). We pick people with similar viewpoints, commonalities, a sense of humor we appreciate. Why don't we do that with the people we are going to spend years with?

Families are about learning from one another, gaining some kind of knowledge, or appreciation. Could even be something as wild as wanting a break from several lifetimes with happy, wise, wealthy parents.

 It's often a first-time human life that gets really good parents. If there is nothing that has adversely affected us in a past life, then there is no wrong to make right. That first lifetime can be spent seeing earth as it really is, a playground for participants.

It is as we go along in lifetimes, that we start to build up things to correct or balance in the next lifetime. Perhaps in one lifetime, someone experiences physical abuse from a parent. In the next lifetime, that person could choose to become someone who works with abusive parents. Or even becomes an abusive parent--to experience what the parent felt.

Great news: If you choose to do something nasty in this lifetime, you can chop down that cycle by doing whatever it takes to become an excellent, healthy, loving person. Free will means we can alter our actions toward the good. Then, when it comes time to choose a spanking fresh new lifetime, we can latch on to one that is sportive, zesty and fun. No yucky stuff to work out.

If we dove into a family that is stocked with a good role models, it could be that we were smart in the pre-birth process. We made the decision to learn a needed lesson within the comfort and safety of a supportive family.

Hint: Law of Attraction even works after physical death.

Two thoughts on family stuff:
The thing about siblings is, you always have someone who just knows how crazy your childhood was.
Every parent becomes insane and ridiculous when kids become teens. Take a deep breath, and be okay with this fact about yourself. When your teens wind down into their thirties, you may just have learned a thing or two.

Loving, supportive book for babies, toddlers and parents.

Dolphin Divine,

Student of motherhood; insane and ridiculous

Balance Cochroaches and Dolphins

If you are an Animal Card addict as I am, whip out those cards and get some information from the animal king/queendom spirit world. There are other cards that do similar things, such as Angel, Tarot, and Witches. But the animals speak to the inner, wild child side. They are my preference.

Recently, I posed the question of who was leading me toward my next life phase: empty nest in June with the graduation of my youngest son. And, I wanted to know who was going to guide me after he left. The animals I plucked from the deck were the weasel and the owl. Both were similar in that most help others by revealing what is happening 'behind the scenes'.

I took this to mean that I should be revealing, through intuition and reading news stories based on facts, what is really going on in in life. But I thought this must be telling people the grimy, crappy, hidden cochroaches that lurk in the dark crevices of our homes, thoughts, and political world.

This didn't sound like fun. Not part of the joyous mindset that makes me feel giddy inside.

Well, recently I decided to branch out. After over a decade of relying on Animal Cards, I crossed over and tried something new. Kind of like bipartisan senators working together. Risque, I know.

Picked me up a pack of Dolphin and Mermaid cards. To these I posed another question. How do I move more quickly into my dream life? You know the one: independent wealth, oodles of friends, perfect-for-us love relationship, health, joy, kids doing the wonderfully.

These new cards tell me to go on a Positive Diet; focus on positive stuff, only. Do not watch violent movies, stay away from negativity including: people, situations, gossip. Spread and interact only with positive energy. Laugh away my days. Skip to lakes and feed the ducks while spreading rose petals.

But wait a cotton-pickin' minute. The weasel and owl say to reveal, reveal, reveal. Doesn't that mean expose the negative?

Which cards to follow? This was beyond my feather fluffed brain power. What did I do, you wisely ask? Meditation to the rescue. I got the inside scoop (blessed be that inner voice).

How to balance the two?

Reveal the good underlying the bad. Show people that they are fundamentally good. Rather than tell someone they are doing a bad thing, tell them you know they can do better. Love is what is really under every rock. And on top, on the side, even inside.

Be creative in finding the good.Then shout it out for the world to hear. Be the Loudspeaker of Peace. Now that makes me feel quivery all over. Let's do it together.

Want another way to reveal goodness? Show a child the joy of laughter. Grab a book from the oh-so-funny boy with the the elephant living in his backyard:

Scout and Ellie series for kids. More joy for the world.

Dolphin Divine,

On a mission to expose goodness

Skate To Peace

Fear and ignorance.They keep us from peace.

The oligarchy that has been slowly undermining our democracy, destroying institutions bent on helping people, and virtually enslaving minorities via prisons, is ruled by fear and ignorance.
The fear is that people will figure out what is going on and will stand together to push them away. Ignorance is not being aware that people are more good than greedy; love is the powerhouse.

There is an active, well-moneyed group of people driving wedges between us. Any focus that can be used to make us think we are more out of alignment is exploited. The drive is on to separate us from our commonalities.

In my Economics classes in college, we were taught the Law of the Commons. That a common area, such as a park or community garden would not be kept up if not for strict enforcements. That it would soon fall into pollution, trash, neglect, vandalism. I believe this to be true when money is involved, especially corporations. But with groups of people directly affected, the Law slips away.

In San Diego, for instance, there was a skate board park frequented by my boys. At first, the City managed it. They hired people to clean it, make sure that skaters were behaving, and that rules were followed. After a few years, the City stopped managing it. Skaters were left on their own. The result? The users kept it clean. Older kids watched out for younger ones to make sure they were safe, and allowed time in the 'bowl'. Vandalism was never seen. The skaters recognized the value of what they had, and took care of it. Completely opposite to the concepts taught in college.

This is one example, but there are countless others. From thriving community gardens, to neighborhood watch programs, there are people everywhere who actively participate in creating and caring for Common Areas. Just looking at the generally peaceful neighborhood parks is proof. While there are always people who leave a mess, or disrupt with violence, the majority of the time, peace prevails.

I've been feeling like we are on the teeter-totter of progress to peace versus polarizing segregation. Today, I was remembering Bernie Sanders. His way is to lead through a love of humanity. More people supported him than Trump. Supporters came out in a surprise tsunami. It was a revelation that there are more people ready for a better world than there are wanting to resort to fear.

It was the institutions that knocked him over. Not the people.

From a spiritual view, I believe he lost so that we can grow stronger in our desire to move forward to the vibrational rising of the New Earth. Every comfort zone that we thought guaranteed is being attacked. Safety nets are plucking away. Top government, CEOs, and corporations are in a race to feed their greed.

Also, the segregating lies of white supremacy is making itself known. If not for their exposures, many of us would not have known how pervasive it is in the U.S., myself included.

Several years ago, I had the fortune to make the acquaintance of a Muslim neighbor. She was an extraordinarily kind woman who wore a head scarf. I was shocked to learn that she was habitually spit upon while walking in public. This was in San Diego, California, a place that I had believed was progressive and full of co-existing citizens. The city, and many more, had a dark side that Trump exposed.

What is occurring today does not mean it is time to give up. There are more people in the world than ever before who want a better, more supportive, peaceful, loving world. Keep your attention, actions and thoughts centered on what most of us want. Love ALWAYS prevails.

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Dolphin Divine,

passionate about peace

How To Tip A Teeter-Totter

 Ever feel like we're repeating our past? From individual life cycles to world events, a quick review of history screams yes to this question. We recycle fashions, political feuds, generational trends, excuses for wars, and movie plots. Until the world realizes that we have a choice to change, we're doomed to repeat. Ground Hog's Day for eternity.

But this time around the spiritual sun, the potential to bring real change is closer than it ever has been before. We are teetering between progressively moving forward, and remaining in the stagnant status quo. The level between the two is fifty-fifty. Could go either way.

The vibration of the earth is increasing. This means that if you stick around, you'll be moving forward to the next spiritual level. You're riding the wave, or jumping off the surfboard.

Every person on the planet has the power to choose for themselves whether they want to stay, or revert back to a past life. Which ever way a person wants to go, no judgment calls are appropriate. No name calling, telling the teacher, or toilet papering someone's yard.

If you are ready to move forward, you're a person who is embracing coexistence. You see the advantages of learning from other cultures. Mixing of heritages. Studying other religions. Looking for commonalities with people of different viewpoints.

The spiritually inclined tend to lean Liberal. However, being a liberal does not mean that you're necessarily ready to move forward. Plenty of liberals are self-righteous in their behavior. They believe that their way of thinking is the only way that can move us all forward. This is narrow thinking, the same thing that they accuse the Right side of committing.

Moving forward is more about listening, communicating, hearing each other out. Loving others and figuring out what it takes to make every one pleased as strawberry punch. Well, maybe not that happy. But at least feel content and heard.

An example: When the transgender issue of being allowed to use either public restroom to came up, I had questions and concerns: What if men pretended to be transgender just to gain access to the women's bathroom--there are perverts in the world. What about the locker room at the gym? Would this area be included for transgenders? I had questions.

But, if I bring up my questions with a group of liberals, I would probably be labeled as someone who is against transgenders sharing my bathroom. Unfair.

I support the issue on the basic premise of it. About that time, I saw a female co-worker enter the men's bathroom. I almost stopped her, thinking that she was not paying attention and about to make a walloping big mistake. Then it hit me, she was a man. And I thought to myself, it's none of my business what her actual gender is. But each time she has to use a public bathroom, every body knows her business. I wanted for her to be able to use the women's room.

In order for us to progress to the next earth vibration, we have to be able to discuss issues, not assume that we either agree or am 'one of them'. Open communication and respecting concerns is integral to being part of the moving forward movement.

We are on the continental divide, in the center of a massive teeter-totter. I hope to see you all after the shift is made to the next spiritual vibe.

Until everything changes, nothing changes.

Want to learn more about ways to align yourself with spiritual ways?

You can do it in laughter while traveling with the lynx:

The Laughing Lynx

Dolphin Divine,

Liberal thinker avoiding the label

Still Learning After All These Years

I'm unique. I'm the only person in this Universe who is EXTREMELY gifted in the art of knowing what other people are doing wrong. AND, I know how to fix their problem. Just ask me. This also applies to situations, politics, city planning, movies, books, and how peanut butter cookies should taste.

But when figuring out my wrong doings, my mind gets hazy. Critiques get misplaced. Things to Do list gets long and essential, especially cupboards that have not been cleaned out in over two years. Oh, and I'm busy doing...something.

And if someone does not like me, well, after fritting and fluttering about it for rather too long, I tend to find a reason it is their fault, not mine. I person who has a problem with me must have their medication completely whacked up, should be living in a straight jacket, or drank too much soda as an infant. I mean, I am always the perfect host, always say the correct thing, and am best buds with Miss Manners.

How could these facts be otherwise?

But there is this nagging, annoying, persistent personality tic with in me that will not SHUT UP. Actually, it is silent as a gliding hawk until I have solved the issues of the day. Then it swoops down, rips into my brain and attacks me with this life long habit: I want to be a better person. The only way to be better is to delve into my self when something doesn't feel right about my behavior.

That hawk can circle around me for decades, waiting until I am ready to listen. Damn patient bird of prey.

Are you wondering what I've learned about myself recently? That when I am confronted with something I don't understand, I can freak out. My mind whirls, reactions go wild, sane reasoning skills are tossed out like a bowl of rotten strawberries. Rather then using my own creative, thoughtful abilities to figure out what to do, I start the whining.

Not whining like a child, but horribly close. I will grab hold of strangers, my annoyed sons, overworked teachers, and anyone who is stupid enough to be crossing my path at my crises moment.

Here's the really funny part. When people do this to me, I get annoyed. Yes, it's true. I know, this is hard for you to understand. Because unlike me, you don't have the gift of knowing the vices of others and not your own.

Recently, someone got upset, freaked out, and bogged me down for help--I was not amused. Then, that nosy, good for nothing hawk came along and jammed an image of the last person who I had blasted for help. Rather than taking time to solve my own problem, I bombarded this person with questions and pleas for assistance.

Once again, the hawk had the better of me. He threatened me with razor claws and a malicious smile until I opened my eyes to the truth. I had been an idiot. So now, when presented with a problem, I will have the choice of freaking out, or figuring out. There is no more hiding behind that log in my eye. I know my failing, have faced it, and can't get out of the fact that I have a choice to do better.

Think of yourself. Is there an issue or person that annoys you? Chances are statistically high that at least something in there is a recognition of one of your failings. If you want to be a better person, search it out. If you don't see a connection, ask your angels for guidance. Or, to be even more brave, ask a friend.

'Know Thyself' was never meant to be an easy breezy lemon squeezy two-word phrase.

After torturing yourself with the self-analysis, 

buy my latest book. 

Certain to smooch out a chuckle or two:

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Dolphin Divine, 

Surprisingly not perfect

Choosing A Together Land

Blog post begins below photo.

I just read a bizarre yet not uncommon FaceBook post. A woman stated that if Europeans had not left their homes hundreds of years ago, they would still be stuck on islands. No technological advances would have been made in America. She was reacting to a post about our genocide of the Native Americans. Her words made it seem like the only way in which Europeans could advance in this life time, was by killing off thousands of people.

Scary, is that this way of thinking is still shared by many. I like to think we're beyond this, but we aren't. With the election of 45, Fascists revealing their faces in marches, speeches, protests, and public comments like hers, it is evident that such black and white thinking still exists. Being in denial of our past and present evils, allows us to stay comfy with ourselves, just the way we are.

Slavery, genocide and human torture is not bound to any country. The black and white race was a marketing tool to justify slavery. Indian tribes once held battles and captured women and used them as slaves. African Chiefs sold out their people in exchange for gifts. Greed and violence was not an invention of Europeans. It's been going on since humans came into existence.

However, we can move away from fear and ignorance, and embrace an inclusive, progressive society.

The people who had been in the Americas before Europeans arrived, had a really good hold of how the land worked. They did not exploit the environment. They took what they needed for survival. As a result, the land thrived. Europeans had a lot to learn from them.

 The European settlers had technology that made life easier. Roads, wagons, engineering skills, bridges. And eventually, my personal favorite--indoor plumbing! This knowledge makes for a more comfortable lifestyle. And, allows for humans to have more time for creative outlets.

Genocide never had to be in the picture. Buffalo could have been eaten as needed, not slaughtered. Slavery could have been a no-go with all people. There could still be thousands of Redwood trees in my neck of the woods. Had both sides been open to it, we could have learned from each other.

World, country, and village turmoil can be changed. It starts with the individual. Examine your own thoughts. In what ways are you believing that your way of doing things is superior? Could you learn something new from your neighbor? Your partner? Co-worker?

Get out of the house and learn something about a different culture. Sharing knowledge is a way to acknowledge that another person has valuable insight. That we are both important.

Start now. Never too late.

An example of how wonderfully inter-species couples can enjoy life:

Another fine, funny Scout and Ellie book:

Dolphin Divine,

Loving the Americas

How To Burst Open

Autumn leaves are rushing past my window, horizontal from the strong southerly winds. They won't drop until they hit the massive redwood trees that envelope our county. I wonder who's going to rake up the mountain of gold, orange and red leaves that will pile at the bottom of the trees? Those redwoods climb upwards of two hundred feet high. Think the leaf mountain will reach half that? Never know on blustery days.

As Fall trees let go to their leaves, so too must we let go. With a burst of last minute color, we all need to embrace cleansing. Nature knows that a yearly step into a burst of amber shades, is desirable to make way for a time of rest. Drop everything, hibernate, be ready for fresh greens.

You can let go by feng shui'ing your home, as I like to call the process.Start with your clothing. What are the outfits that no longer fit, are decades away from anything close to a fashion, or have a stain that you always try to hide by pretending it just got there? Get this: there are more clothes to buy in the world. There are more cute outfits, flattering shirts, and jeans that promote your body today. Best way to welcome in the new-comers, is to push out the old-timers closet.

Once you have conquered the closet, venture out into the home world. The dresser holds bags of potential for the thrift stores. Shelves are poised to be rid of dust-collecting knick knacks. Back corners of cupboards are breeding grounds of unused items. Feng Shui away, my friend.

Keep in mind: 

if you haven't used it in a year, 

it probably won't be needed in the next.

Next up, grab your broom. For this fun purging, you'll aim skyward. Right up in to the top of your walls. I'm talking about those cobwebs. Clearing out cobwebs=getting out entanglements. It's disgusting work, but who wants to be rolled up in sticky past issues? Move on to a wall of freed up living.

Now that your home is fresh and efficient, it's time to look down. This one is close, you are attached to it: your body. It's been a toxin enabler. The electrifying, horrid way that toxins sneak in is through stress. As we know, stress leads to unproductive thoughts such as anger, fear, and resentment. And, sickness and injury are poised to attack the toxic laden body.

You are strong. You can fight back.

Your elimination weapons? Massage, reflexology, yoga, stretching. Stay strong in your dedication to relax. This can flush out toxins. Longevity and quality of life are counting on you.

Home, body, now soul. Your soul is inherently clean, but can be difficult to access when unwanted energy has been piling up. Finding your way to it, is personal. My number one choice is through meditation. Others derive access through body blisses such as jogging, swimming, or cycling. Even absorption into cross-stitching, painting, and writing enchanting spiritual blogs counts. Anything that gets you into the zone, and out of the mind ego madness.

What makes these zone out moments work, is that you are in the moment. You have let go to past yearnings and future fears. You are present, and can receive.

Okay, here comes the one that is generally the hardest to part with: relationships. If you're in a negative relationship, one that is dragging you back down to swamps and sewer muck, drudge OUT.
An old friend wants to waste away with gossip, complaints, and negative comments? Probably time for you to loosen the strings that bound you.

If you're in a new spiritual level, you may feel discomfort in close proximity to negative thinkers. Or, they may try to pull you back to old ways of coping and connecting to others. This is not the time to sink. Rather, send love, and move on. Be open to new relationships that serve to strengthen your positive new ways.

Stay clear of guilt over releasing stanky relationships. You'll be serving as an example of how good it feels to be a better person. Spray your body clean of negativity. Soar to new heights. Plant seeds of awareness. Show others they can do the same. Your shiny new world is an example. Don't stay the muddy swamp monster. Doesn't help anyone.

Letting go opens your branches to new leaves. Bust out your golden hues, spirit them away, pause in the void, allow for green abundance. Mimic nature.

Ready to move on from your old place? 

Here's the book from the Mistress of Movers:

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Dolphin Divine,

Getting ready to clean out some webs